“Your life does not get better by chance, it gets better by change” Jim Rohn
What coaching is…
A good coach facilitates change, but does not teach how to change but believes the individual has their own answers and the coach’s role is to help unlock those answers and develop actions towards change. Most importantly, the coach is not the expert on the coachees issues or life, the individual is.
Imagine achieving all you want to achieve with your life – that’s a tall order, but we can do it with a positive and encouraging voice supporting us, and that voice is our own. Most of us have an inner voice that is discouraging, critical and negative at times; it may hold us back from achieving our potential in certain areas, but if we allow the subconscious or instinct to come forward we can learn to diminish fears and become the person we really are, or achieve the goal that we think impossible.
A good coach has the training and instinct to choose the right questions at the right time in order to allow the coachee to become their own expert in their immediate situation. The coach is not the expert on another’s subject or problem, but sits alongside and supports the process.
…and what coaching isn’t
The Differences Between Teaching, Coaching, Mentoring and Counselling
Although teaching, coaching, mentoring and counselling all share some key characteristics and skills, they are nonetheless quite different and it’s important to be aware of the differences.
The teacher is the expert in his/her field and imparts knowledge to the student, there is an imbalance of knowledge, the student being the lesser knowledgeable, looking to the teacher for all the ‘right’ answers.
Mentoring has more similarities to teaching than coaching and is generally an ongoing personal journey with mentor being the guide, sharing with the mentee his/her knowledge so the mentee can learn more quickly. Think of Michaelangelo, he did not paint all of the Sisteen chapel ceiling but had assistants to help him, carefully following his designs and style. A mentoring relationship usually concentrates on the long term future, whereas coaching deals with more short term issues.
Counselling or Therapy is a therapeutic practice, dealing in depth with past traumas, often experienced in childhood; events that are preventing the individual moving forward in a stronger position.
Coaching, in the way that I mean here, is a powerful process that can lead to positive change, its role is to help the individual see their own pathway, build realistic stepping stones and ultimately achieve goals that seem out of reach. A good coach unlocks an individuals potential.
If you are reading this, you are someone who has always wanted to be creative but didn’t have the time; didn’t give yourself the time; thought you would be rubbish because of something said as a child or any other reason personal to you. My students come to me with the need to express themselves in a non-verbal way, often fearful that art is beyond them, but they have come to the realisation that “I want to do it!!”
I know it is not beyond anyone to add creativity to their lives; it is a private skill that will build your self esteeem, allow you to feel a sense of accomplishment, let you see the world differently – it will change you.
Some people live such busy lives that they barely have enough time to breathe; others need an activity to fill a void.
Art can not only allow you to breathe it will fill a void, even if you don’t think you have one! Not necessarily a void of interests or tasks, but a void of headspace. Some of us don’t seem to have much headspace these days. I know that when I tap in to that creative side, become involved with making or painting or drawing and allow myself not to think about the pile of other work to do or the shopping list or dinner or meetings in the morning, it is a revolutionary and calming, private time; art is revitalising.
Art doesn’t suit everyone, some people run, cycle, walk, meditate, do yoga. All these activities are similar in that they give us headspace, it just depends on what you like to do. Art is not the sole activity for me either, I walk, I swim, but I do know I give myself time for my art, it is a crucial part of my existence and I miss it when I am not creating.
With art you produce something, it is amazing! You can look at it the next day and think, “Oooh, I did that, it’s pretty good” even though you might not have thought so at the time. You can give something to someone, a bit of you, should you wish. Or keep it private and show no-one else.
There are those of us who want and need to be creative, to paint, draw, get our hands dirty, ‘mess about’. If that sounds familar, you are in the right place.
My USP is that I can teach you to express yourself through your own art, in your own style. I want you to be you, you are not following my style, you are jumping on my lifetime in art and learning more quickly than I how to be yourself creatively.
I wish I’d found me earlier!